This blog post is inspired by Rolling with Renia (go subscribe). She posts all of these cute youtube videos! I see her posts and think to myself, “I remember when I used to make youtube videos. It was so much fun!”
So here goes…
I love myself enough to take a break.
I’m going to start telling myself this more often. I’m a mother, daughter, bae, sister, teacher, etc. I’m a wombman of PASSION who bears many roles. I go hard for mine. And I haven’t even factored in my work. My work is my passion too! When you love what you do, it doesn’t seem like work. It just feels like playing your favorite game or watching your favorite shows. It feels as natural as anything else that you were born with. And it’s easy to get lost in it.
I find myself, using almost every spare moment to work. It’s so easy. What’s harder is making myself take a brain break. This has not always been the case for me, but it is now. And I know from experience that meditating is very beneficial to my health and overall well being. So, I’ve told myself that I have to love myself enough to take a break. I need to allow myself the same passion I have for everything and everybody else.
And not just for us adults. For our children too. I speak life into my child, but I want her to speak life into herself as she grows up and goes out into this world. We create mantras now to prepare for tomorrow. For my Great Rising! readers, you’ll notice that there is a create a mantra activity in the coloring book.
As an educator, I learned that a lot of our youth don’t love themselves. There are many reasons why a child may feel like this. And because of this lack of love, affection, and confidence, they lash out. They “follow” the wrong crowd. They shut down. Worst of all, they stop believing in themselves.
I had a student once who started off the year great. She did her work, had great behavior, and was your average model student. However, as the year progressed, she began to get in trouble more and more. I really didn’t have any issues with her, but she’d get in trouble with her other teachers and become angry. Sometimes, she would bring that angry energy to our science class. One day she snapped at me. I got all of the other students started on their assignment, and I asked her to step out into the hallway. I stood in my doorway and talked with her. Just asked her what’s up. I let her say everything she had to say, and just explained to her that I felt she was upset, and I understood her. After she had calmed down, I reminded her that I didn’t disrespect her, so I expected her not to disrespect me. I explained to her that she can’t let people’s (teachers, students, parents, siblings, etc) actions rile her up to the point of explosion. I asked her had she heard of a mantra. I told her that when she felt her emotions taking her over to say a mantra. I let her sit with me during lunch and help her come up with one. I think her first mantra was, "I am smart," or something like that. Apparently, people had been calling her dumb. She had a few good days after that. Our goal was to write three, but things would come up. So, my lunch and planning periods where occupied. I remember, one day the following week she came to me and asked could we finish her mantras, and I couldn’t because of something. I said we will in a few days. The next day she was expelled. I was sooo hurt. She had come to me for help, and I didn’t. I will always remember those moments. I know I went off on a tangent, but that was a defining moment for me. We all need self-love, and most of us don’t realize it until late.
Once again, I am at point in my life where I gotta give myself some love that’s just for me. I need that balance. And I know that there is somebody else out there who needs it too. That’s why I’m sharing some of the things I do to get myself going.
You may or may not be able to have some time alone today. BUT if you can find some time, isolate yourself.
Comfort Zone: You don't have to go outside and you don't have to sit on the ground. Go to a quiet place and get comfortable.
Music: Next, turn on some music that's soothing to you. A song that can take you away, yet fade into the background to let you focus on your thoughts.
Meditation Tools: Grab some pink or green crystals. If that's not your thing, skip this step. If it is your thing, but you don't have any, check out my meditation store. Smudge yourself before your meditation begins to clear unwanted energies from the week! Light your favorite incense. Have a mantra ready!
Meditate: A lot of people tell me that they try meditating, but it's hard because they have so much on their minds. I agree that it can be difficult in the beginning. It's difficult for me even today if I'm out of practice. Meditation is like anything else, the more you practice, the better you become at focusing on yourself. Guided meditations are great for beginners and experts alike. I know some great guided meditations and will share the links if you want in the comments. I also help people with meditations as well.
Use the time alone to think about the things that make you happy. Live in your moments of happiness. Love yourself for participating in and creating these moments. Think of new ways to create more happy moments.
Hold your crystals.
Take some deeeeep breaths.
Close your eyes.
Repeat your mantra. (x a # you choose)
Be silent and continue to breathe deeply for at least 10 minutes. When you start thinking about a background sound or things you need to do, or LIFE.... Go back to your mantra and pull yourself back into your meditation.
After you’re done. Take a few moments to reflect if you can. Log your meditations. You learn a lot about yourself and the world through meditation. Keep a journal. Thank yourself for the opportunity. Pray. Try your best to do it again. And again. And again.